It’s okay

Mental Health Awareness month is dedicated to all those people who exploit their mental health or whose mental health is exploited by others and is a reason for us to come out in the open and talk about this . I really don’t get the logic behind the society shunning this topic . It’s like we are always taught to be mentally strong but when something does challenge over mental well being , people simply avoid the topic saying it’s a phase, it’s a trend , it’ll pass , everyone goes through shit it’s not just you, just sleep over it man oh and the best remedy drink some water or it’s all because of your phone ? I mean would you ask a person suffering from malaria or tuberculosis or swine flu to just drink water and sleep over it ? No right . Then why god why do you give this secondary treatment to your mental health ? This is an absolutely flawed approach towards this whole situation and the worst is when people say that it’s an attention and sympathy seeking technique . It’s high time we made ourselves aware and accept the facts . Anger , hate , jealousy, fear , sadness, anxiety etc . are all valid emotions which everybody experiences. Just because they are negative emotions doesn’t mean that people don’t develop them at some point. The saddest part is that we are never really taught to deal with these emotions . Think about it, we are taught how to fix machines, how to cure diseases , to resolve our countries issues , even so now to develop our personality but no one even thinks about teaching an individual how to process his or her thoughts and emotions when things get complex . We are supposed to just figure stuff out . How long are we going to take out mental and emotional well being for granted ? Everyone takes a break when they are physically drained out but always tend to push their mental and emotional limits. Do you ever take a step back when you are emotionally overwhelmed or do you just pretend to be okay and straight up ignore your feelings? The most important thing one must do is to validate their thoughts and emotions . It’s okay to feel the way you feel in response to a certain situations,even the most simple ones. The ways in which we can channelise our thoughts and feelings in a proper way are very limited and so we tend to have outbursts that affect us in a way that contributes to our stress and anxiety. So cut people some slack if they overreact to something, are too emotional about things or have a hard time coping with stress because honestly we were never professionally taught how to deal with it correctly. And then when people are completely screwed over , they are held accountable for how they feel which is wrong and so we need to fix this step by step . Step one is Acceptance- we should always accept our feelings along with others feelings and thoughts . Find out why you or others  feel in a particular way and you will learn tolerance . Step two is Expressing yourself - It plays an effective role in this whole process. Say what you are thinking or how your feeling out loud . If something bothers you point it out and when others do the same be supportive . There are a few basic and simple conflicts that lead to some complex conditions. So a regular and healthy practice to keep your thoughts and feelings in check can avoid huge burdens that come if things pile up . Step three is Education- Educate yourself and others and be open minded . Prioritise your well being like you prioritise your career and your family and you’ll see the difference in your happiness and satisfaction levels. Your emotional and mental well being is equally important to your physical well being and it’s only you who needs to realise this so that you can develop an immunity. That being said there are people around us who have had worse situations to go through and aren’t able to keep their well being in check . We should be sensitive towards them and try to help them. And Finally Step four is being open to help- when you do reach out to people who care about you let them in ! There is absolutely nothing wrong about needing help , everyone is dependent on each other so please stop thinking like some kind of egomaniac. Depression, anxiety and stress are very common in people today owing to our hectic lifestyles and that’s why it is necessary to keep them in check. Emotional quotient (E.Q.) is a very important factor. Try to nurture it . Remember mental health matters and if there’s anything that threatens it , it should be treated by seeking the right professional help . Have you ever heard anyone saying , “Oh my god my temperature is burning up , I’m so sick but how can I visit a doctor, what will people say because visiting a doctor is so shameful! ” have you ? Then why does it even have to be consideration in case of your mental health. Drop the whole ‘Brown people don’t believe in therapy ’act because if it’s too late Brown parents are going to need actual tutoring to teach them healthy parenting and of course common sense. Don’t let this mindset prevail anywhere near you and if it does fight it . Fight for your well being like it’s your goddamn right . Say it out loud , 

“ Mental health is a priority and I will treat it like one”.